Important: The number 1 rule in the swinging lifestyle is that no always means NO!
As many of you are new to the swinging scene, it has been suggested that perhaps some guidance on swingers contact manners would be useful.
Please respond to all e-mails you receive from respondents.
Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.
It does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping that someone has written back to me.
We do not allow escorts or call girls to advertise, any profiles found soliciting money for sex will be deleted by the admin team.
Always be polite.
Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad.
Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.
If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their profile).
Keep the language clean, match your response to the profile you are responding to. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.
If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.
We are bound to have missed a few points, if you come up with some more, please feel free to write and tell us at
We are JoJo (Joanne) and DirtyDavid. JoJo has been in the swinging Lifestyle since 2000, David since 1974!
We build swingers contact websites and run swingers socials, swinging parties and swing holidays.
We enjoy meeting and playing with our members when possible. We used to live in the UK until 2004, then we lived in Spain until 2019. Since April 2020 we have been living in New Brunswick in Canada.
We don't send out pictures to people, we had so many requests we didn't have time to respond to everyone. We built a website where we posted a lot of our photos and talk about what we like to do and how people can meet us. It is free to use at www.joanddavid.com
I met David at one of his Swingers Parties in 2000. It was my first Swingers Party and I had so much fun. I had my first 3 some with a couple and my first girl on girl experience all in one night.
JoJoBiSexual, Hotwife, Cougar and Greedy Girl
I started swinging in my late teens when I lived in London. I have been involved in the lifestyle most of the time since then. I have run over 500 Swingers Parties. Jo and I manage over 300 Swingers Websites.
DirtyDavidStraight Male Swinger and Party Host