Swingers Contact Etiquette

Important: The number 1 rule in the swinging lifestyle is that no always means NO!

As many of you are new to the swinging scene, it has been suggested that perhaps some guidance on swingers contact manners would be useful.

Advertisers:

Please respond to all e-mails you receive from respondents.

Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.

It does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping that someone has written back to me.

We do not allow escorts or call girls to advertise, any profiles found soliciting money for sex will be deleted by the admin team.

Respondents:

Always be polite.

Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad.

Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.

If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their profile).

Keep the language clean, match your response to the profile you are responding to. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.

If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.

We are bound to have missed a few points, if you come up with some more, please feel free to write and tell us at

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